Just Because You’ve Found ‘The One’ Doesn’t Mean You Should Stop Putting In The Work | Korea Artiz Studio

Relationships are glorified. From the moment we’re born into this society, every childhood movie, every TV show, every ad has romanticized relationships as something easy and beautiful and life changing. When you meet your soulmate, there’s no work you need to put into the relationship or into yourself because the sparks fly and your love automatically overcomes every obstacle and it’s all perfect.

As a young woman, I’ve noticed that both I and many of the people around me have bought into this notion. We chase relationships endlessly because they’re supposed to bring us a semblance of life-altering joy that can’t be found by ourselves any other way. We expect the search to be hard — which is why we’re willing to persevere — but once we find that magical connection with the right person, the work is done.

This is the mentality that causes relationships to fall apart. In the words of Gone Girl’s Amy Dunne, just before her relationship with Nick falls apart: “We were happy pretending to be other people. We were the happiest couple we knew.” Marriages fail because once the fight is over to find your soulmate, once you’re together with them, the expectation of true love to naturally click into place without effort falls in.

I’ve always believed that love is equally a choice and not — the initial connection isn’t something you can necessarily control, but you can choose to remember what made you fall in love with the person when you’re going through a rough patch. You can appreciate the things they do for you that may normally go overlooked. You can choose to present the best version of yourself to them — one that is patient and understanding, creating the best environment for love to thrive.

I write this as I’m in the middle of a break with my girlfriend. It was my choice, and I think we both have many aspects of ourselves to work on that will help our relationship continue to grow. But I’m not going to stop fighting for her, because I believe that she’s the right person. In this case, fighting for us takes the form of a break, where we can both reflect on whether we share the same vision for the next two, five, 10 years.

Many aspects of our relationship has never been easy, but there are so many facets of her personality and our relationship that I truly believe I could not find with another person — her honesty in the face of criticism, her unwillingness to be mean to others, and a gut feeling I have that she would never, ever do anything to hurt me or jeopardise our relationship, not even accidentally. I harbor no illusions about the “immortality” of our relationship, but I know that I’ll keep fighting for our future as long as she’s willing to accept it.

About Artiz Studio:

Free from the influence of time & place, our portraits capture a moment that is timeless. This is our aim when capturing any photo. As a child, I was deeply moved when I saw a photo of my grandparents together, bathed in a soft red light. I can never forget the impression that photo left on me, it had a large impact on me and my photography. I wish for brides and grooms to have the same feelings that I experienced when they receive their portraits. The most beautiful moments of loving couples should be retained forever. — Founder Kim Yong Seon

Founded In Busan, Korea Since 2008, South Korea Network KBS Central Has Named Artiz As One Of The Leading Bridal Fashion Icon And Wedding Provider For Authentic Korean-Style Photography. Capturing Timeless Portraits For More Than 20 Million Couples Throughout The 45 Situated Studio Locations. Our Unique Background Setting Crafted By SBS Korea Landscape Designers Has Propelled Artiz Within The Ranks Of Luxury Wedding Photography Elites Throughout The World, Delivering World-Leading Standards And Services.

Ushering In Artiz Global Success Was The Expansion To Singapore’s Wedding Scene In 2017 And Has Been Crowned Unanimously As Singapore’s Largest Indoor Wedding Studio And Sole Provider For Authentic Korean-Style Wedding Photography.

Our Extensive Portfolio Of Over 200 A-List Celebrities Endorsements And Mutual Collaborative Shoots With Local Top-Tier Influencers And Media Publications Has Propelled Artiz Into The Ranks Of Singapore’s Wedding Elites. This Includes Jian Hao Tan (Frobes 30 Under 30, 2016) With His Now Wife Debbie Soon (Influencer), Jade Rasif (Rank #2 South East Asia DJ, 2020), Naomi Neo (Singapore’s Most Followed Female Influencer, 2020) As Well As LGBTQ Activism Shoot For Andee Chua And Hugo Lim (Youtuber Influencer, Runway Model And LGBTQ Activist)

Artiz Has Seen To Also Paved The Way For Luxury Wedding And Bridal Providers, Having Earned Featured Publications In Over 200 Global Media Channels Worldwide Such As ELLE, COSMOPOLITAN BRIDE, VOGUE & HERWORLD Singapore

Your Wedding Day Is One Of The Most Important Days In Everyone’s Life, And We Hope That It Would Be Captured In Every Detail. Artiz Promises A Distinctive Style & Fresh POV To Photography By Shooting Natural Expressions And Moments Of Each Bride & Groom , Which Leave Not Only A Memory But Also Touches The Soul. Our Timeless Glamour And Luxurious Ambience Has Earned Us The Reputation As The Premier Studio Where Stars Have Chosen To Express Their Love Story.

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Artiz Studio was founded in Busan, South Korea in 2008 and has since become the most fashionable and popular Korean style wedding photography brand globally

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